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Well the ladies won states! Now they are on to Nationals.

I am proud of these ladies. They have overcome a lot with in the past 8 months.

When the team started, no one thought the team was going to do well. I mean, we were getting our butts handed to us. We couldn’t win a game, but we moved some people around, made some line up changes, kept a few on reserve and worked. From BP to practices, to league nights, to good tournaments to bad tournaments.

If you don’t know anything about the softball community it is small! Very small! So if you in end up doing something wrong, right, poor, well, bad, good, only the bad sticks with you. Its sad, but I have done my darnedest to keep it from being any way like that!

I want nothing but positives in my life. There is to much negative in the world, and we create our positive and our negatives. Therefore, if there is negative around I will cut that right out. I don’t have time for that. My family doesn’t have time for that. My child should not be subjected to poor words about her mother or people her mother enjoy.

Remember that, Kids hear everything! My daughter, 3 years old mind you, asked me why that lady I was talking to hurt your heart. Yup, she heard somethings. All she remembered was mommies heart was hurt.

Well, just remember. No matter how good and nice things are, there is always someone looking to push you down. Sad but true. However if you work hard keep  your circle close then maybe you wont have to have a hurt heart.

We are a Family!

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What are some things that you do for fun?

Do you ever just take a seat, look back and wonder how on earth is this my special gift God gave me? What is it good for? How am I supposed to take this gift and bless others with it? Bless my family? Bless those around me?

I believe that God put me in the place I am today, to be a center for the group of gals I am leading.

Let me explain!!!

See, Im a Stay At Home Mother, with a 3.5 year old. My husband is active duty and we are in the down hill slope of this particular tour. Man it just can’t get here quick enough, however while he has been gone I have decided to dip into my old patterns of my younger self.

Whats that your asking, well I’m not getting crazy if thats what your thinking. Instead I took on playing softball. Adult women, playing slow pitch softball.

You probably have this picture in your head of the girls that go out during the week, wearing the tall sock, short shorts, bows in the hair, we got em, but thats not what I’m  talking about.

I’m talking about ladies, women, mothers, veterans, active duty personnel, post collage athletes, teachers, coaches, sahm, business women, and every other title you can think of. We get together 2 times a month to play ball. I mean Play Ball!

I got one team member, where she is in court a lot of the time working with families and their children. She is quiet, and extremely sweet. Once she steps up to bat she places the ball and is on 1st before you can blink. Following her I have the hip young fast pitch coach. She steps up hits the ball and next thing you know your telling the batter before her, “way to girl”, because she is already in the dugout!

The batting continues like that with everyone, there may be some slower than others, but we all play a huge part of the game.  Another one of my gals, steps up, you better have your face protected or sitting on the fence! Because its going to come at you hard!!!! One gal has arms for days, another looks like a unicorn in the outfield, another picks everything hit her, another one has thighs like you never seen.  I mean the list goes on. We are a true puzzle with all the little pieces that work.

When theses gals hit the field there is nothing they can’t do, and nothing they can not overcome. They could be in new positions, or having a hard day fielding a ball, but the person next to them, behind them, or in front of them, each player will look at one another pick each other up. It could be a words of encouragement or just the look we need to see. Then the next play starts and its like nothing happened. Everything went smoothly and we are walking back into the dug out laughing, cheering, and ready to Drawsome.

I guess what I am saying is, I have another family. This is a different kind of family  though.   A family of sister, where we each can come together, release all the ugly we each faced that week or month. We talk, we laugh, we cry all together. We support each other during everything. Our family challenges, our children, our love lives, our car troubles, or money trials. We each take a step back from us, to make sure each of us are good, and on our game.

We’ve done well thus far in our adventures of softball together. We have had our Ups and WE HAVE HAD OUR DOWNS, but in the end we are not just a team, we are sisters, a softball family.

Wish us luck as we make our way to Florida, come September as we approach one of our biggest challenges yet, Womens Worlds, chasing some world series rings. Who would have thunk? Its not cheap, so say some prayers as we do our fundraising, for travel, uniforms, and any other unexpected expenses.

Waiting

Well well well, its been a while! Last post was all about our home buying and becoming new home owners. I don’t know if its really sunk in yet. Possibly because its just me and the kiddo. I can’t wait till the husband come home though, so he can see our new home.

There is so much I want to do to the home before he arrives but dang its expensive. not even 2 months in the new house the toilet broke! Yup had to get a repair man. That was strange because the land lord always had it taken care of.

The dreams of a pool and deck and one full solid yard, with a corner nook in the kitchen fans in the room to help the house keep cool in the souther California summers of EAST COUNTY

 

Just waiting on the hubby to get home, till then the waiting game!

My God Story

My last post was some time ago! A lot has happened since then! Let me tell you about my GOD STORY!

Have you ever heard of a God Story? I never heard of a God Story until I started attended my church, NewBreak Ocean Beach. One Sunday morning, one of our Pastors, Mike Quinn had spoken at our campus. I believe they were in the middle of what they call, the Traveling Pastors . This is when each of the Pastors from each campus comes to visits the other campus and tell the sermon that Sunday. Its a fantastic way to get to know the other pastors of the church. Anyhow, during this time frame Mike had said as he was closing up the sermon, “Have you ever had a God story like this one? If you have not, then your due.”

These words struck a cord with me. Now mind you this was almost a year ago when he spoke this sermon, BUT it stayed with me. Now lets fast forward to February 2018.

The Shortest Longest Month Ever!!!!

February 2018, I walked into my apartments main office, showed them the copy of my husbands order, (he had already left for current duty station in August 2017 and we stay stateside) And told them I wanted to break my lease March 1, 2018. I chose the shortest month of the year, to break my lease, lease a P.o. Box, lease a storage unit, rent a trailer for 2 days, pack, donate, trash, deep clean, sleep on floors, futons, air mattresses the whole nine yards to stop wasting my money on rent.

I had no Plan of where I was going to stay, but I hd 28 days to figure it out. I contemplating rehoming my dogs, taking a road trip to TX living with my parents, doing a week to week place to stay … and then my best friend without hesitation offered her hide abed in her 30ft RV, to myself, my toddler, my akita, and my poochon and all my craziness.

God was working. He had plans for us and I didn’t know where he was taking my family. The next think you know, March 1st was here. we were living in the RV. a week later a very good girl friend of mine and I were talking at the field (yes the softball fields. Yes we play  and we are damn good at it too.) As we were drinking our Sculpins, she started talking about her job. i’ve known this girl for months now and never once did we ever talk about what she did for living. Come to find out she is a Home Loan Officer, and her family works in the home mortgage business. Needless to say, I gulped my beer down, laughed and said, yea if we could ever buy in San Diego, we would… and proceeded to roll my eyes. She looked at me and basically said, give me a chance, I guarantee  I can get you approved for what you want, where you want, and moved in   by the end of April?….

Dont Blink, its Happens Fast!

I didn’t say much that night after that conversation. Instead I though really hard about it. Email my husband about it, and then finally prayed about it. And prayed. And prayed. An d prayed. Praying felt good! So, just like breaking the lease, and not having any place to live, I took a leap of faith and God carried my family on his wings. 15 houses later and 2 offers in, We FOUND a Home AND are HOME OWNERS, BEFORE the end of April.

As I am writing this down, it seems weird but it doesn’t feel so crazy, but eternally I am reliving each day in my head and heart and know that God carried us through this all. I was loosing my mind because I didn’t know what to do or where to go. But we are home owners. My child has her own room, my dogs have yard to run with her and play. I know its going to be a lot of work and there are some things this home will need, just as every home does, some good old fashion Tender Loving Care! Face lifts here and there, new paint, some new pictures, …. but you know what! its all totally worth it. We have home, A yard! A garage! and 15 mins from the BEACH! Its our Paradise, and we could not have done it without God working and putting people in our lives to helps us, pray for us, encourage us, bless us and show us mercy as we show them mercy and grace too! For everything they did for us!

So your probably wondering exactly how the home buying process happens. Well we used the VA Home Loan, went through Team Home Loans,  We got all our finances together for them, signed a butt load of papers, and Boom Done. They were so fabulous!

I  do suggest some sort of money down, but if the lenders are wanting to really help  you out NO you don’t need 10 grand like most people say,  you can make it happen under that.

My realtor was a personal friend, again someone I play ball with during the week. (crazy how if you do some sort of Adult Recreation you network and make friends on a different scale) but he was so forward about things. Never held anything  back and made sure to keep things simple. He knew what I was looking for, and we kept searching. I will say this, realtors have lives and families too. Don’t forget that. So on weekends that their kids have  baseball or soccer and they don’t answer the phone don’t get pissy, just get off your butt, get in the car and do some open houses on your own. Get a feel for everything, and watch out for those flips! Whoa nelly!

Alright! Thats it for this one! Later!

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The RV Life is for Me?

A lot has been happening.

The husbands gone for some time with his job, so its just me and my little one. My best friend has bee so awesome and she has totally helped me out in so many ways.

Well last year, 2017, my family and I have been living paycheck to paycheck, just like every other family in this crazy world, however God has given us a chance to figure this out.

I finally got the courage to just break the lease and leave. My little one and I are going to room with my BFF, and my 2 Dogs are going to accompany us.

Its going to be an adventure, we will be staying in her RV. Yes that is right RV. I think the most scary part about this adventure is the trust and faith that I can keep my shiz together.  HaHa!

The hopes are to save and be able to find a home for sale in Sunny San Diego. I’ve taken the step to make it happen by breaking a lease and packing my stuff up, but the true test will be in a couple of months.

Whats the most bold thing you have ever done?

It’s Okay, Mom

I sat at the table yesterday crying. Looking at my child feeling like a Bad Mom.

My daughter asked for meatballs and green beans for dinner, I got home later than expected. I had to be somewhere in about an hour, I didn’t have everything in the house to make her the meal she asked for, instead I went to Subway, and got her a meatball marinara sandwich, hopping this will satisfy her craving.

She looked up at me and gave me a kiss. touched my face and said, ” Its okay, Mom.” Then hugged me. She then processed to do something silly, looked at me smiled and said, see silly me.

She gets it. She knows I am having a rough patch. That I miss her father, my partner, my best friend! Only 401 Days left!

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Your not that good. Tuck your ears on up in that hat, wear all the gear, make sure to look the part… but damn can you at least play the part?

“Can I go home now?”…. after he has gone ofer… if you don’t know what ofer is.. that means you didn’t get on base, nor have a SAC at least. “yes please, pack your shit.. bye. No one wants to play with you anyway”

Ugh SO OVER THE TOP! When did it become about who has the coolest stuff, the best gear, and ONLY smashing? What happened to playing and having some fun. Its mixed, we all play, we do the part, but when you aint having fun no one wants to play.

….. they stayed, they played….

Eeeeefinking Slow-pitch

The SMILE is EVERYTHING

Merry Christmas!

Happy New Year!

Whats your resolution? >>>>>> Oh you know, loose weight, go to the gym, cook more often, save some money, spend less time on social media >>>>>>>>>>>

>>>> 2 weeks later, haven’t made it to the gym, still eating out, gained weight, making even more plans on social media with friends, oh and still broke!

 TOTALLY WORTH IT!

My little one just turned 3!!! What a fun day. The stress of it being what she asked for was crazy but totally worth the smiles and laughs and the memories.

See, I only remember one birthday, and it wasn’t my 16th, 18th, 21st, or 30th, it was my 4th or 5th…. and I only remember that because my mother wrapped a gift in newspaper funnies. I thought it is was so cool to have newspaper wrapping. My cake was white, with the little round rainbow dots all over it, I had a piñata, we were on our back porch patio the looked out in grassy area of the big park in base housing. This is my fondest memory as a child’s birthday. Simple and fun…

Its funny how now children birthday are both simple and elaborate. We as parents choose which way we want to go. For my littles ones 1st and 2nd B-day was super simple. Literally family only on the 1st, and on the 2nd birthday she had a small park birthday with cupcakes.

For some reason though for her 3rd birthday I felt the need and urge to do a tad bit more. I started wondering why, then all my psychology courses I had taken to be somewhere awesome in life in a few years because I was going to be some big time psychologist or something… anyway, they took a course of action and realized my urge to do more was because at the age of 3, toddlers tend to really start remember and recognizing and holding on to things more… therefore I wanted to do my best to give her the best 3rd birthday. That way for her 4th, or 5th, or 6th… if we are not somewhere stable because the military is unknown and you never really know whats goin

  The Birthday!!!!

“Hey sweetie, what kind of birthday party would you like?” as I asked my soon to be 3 year old.

“Um, nanananananananananananana BATGIRL!” as she danced around Chick-fil-a in her rainboots, puffy coat, and batgirl beanie. Mind you we are not in Cali at this time, but instead, a freezing cold Central Texas.

For the next 2 weeks, Im the slave of Etsy, Pinterest, and Amazon. Looking for the best ideas and the coolest gems and the most cost efficient gadgets. Getting cake ideas, cookie ideas, game ideas.

After all the money spend and time and energy spent on the internet, the birthday was a success. Easy, not to expensive, and kept kiddos entertained as well as parents happy and relaxed.

From batgirl themed, to princess bounce house, slap bracelets, piñata, coloring table, and bubbles it was a total success.

Here are some of the fun to see!

Cake by Blondies Sweet Shop

Birthday Get Up by Bows & Ballers by Gwen

 

 

 

A Phone Call or Text?

Living a lifestyle where you say goodbye sucks. You never really know when you get to speak to your loved one(s) when they are away. All you can really do, is just stay busy, allow yourself to miss them from time to time, then stay busy again. I know that is what I do.

I fill my calendar with all sorts of things, sports, gym, coffee dates, hair appointments, dog appointments, laundry, dishes, cleaning the carpets, taking my kiddo to school, wondering aimlessly through down town window shopping, taking the kiddo to the zoo, or park, or museum.. the list will go on if I felt like writing that much.

Just when you really are about to hit the wall and break down, and the world feels like its caving in, the little text out of no where that says “Hey”.. just “hey” melted my heart! Brings tears to my eyes, and Joy to every fiber in my body! My light has turned back on! Then comes the best part… A PHONE CALL!

Listening to his words, and hearing his voice.. “What are ya’ll doin?” this words put a smile on my face because he doesn’t miss a beat. Its like he hasn’t even left, he is right down the road at work or something. He is, he is at work.. just a much much much farther walk/drive/flight… but he asked the important questions.. what are YA’LL doin.

My world was starting to move a little a slow, but I’m back now. I feel rejuvenated.

A phone call or text, thats all it takes, sometimes.

Vegas  Baby!

Man if I was to go back in time and tell my younger self, “when your friends offer to pay your way to Vegas and experience the crazy.—– you should take it!”

I went to Vegas about a month ago, for a Womens Worlds Softball Tournament, hosted by  Global Sports Leauge (GSL). While the tournament, our team didn’t do to hot due to “drama” of course… ugh women!!! The aftermath was very entertaining!

The first night we went to the bar Gold Spike, somewhere around old Vegas, and we had a good time. The second night was by far the most entertaining. From drunkin adult board and puzzle games, to beer stealing jail thugs, and hoping a taxi to make it to a strip club, where my BFF puked in her mouth 3xs and swallowed to try and save it, but just didn’t make it, and we were not allowed to re-enter!

While Vegas was fun, as a mother, and having the adult life and responsibilities, I think I rather go see a show, eat at a Gordon Ramsey restaurant, see the lights, and see my daughters face light up with amazement of the colors and lights of the night.

I get another chance coming up this weekend, Vegas bound, this time my little one gets to come and pending on our game schedules we get to see the Vegas lights and maybe some kid friendly shows!