We are a Family!

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What are some things that you do for fun?

Do you ever just take a seat, look back and wonder how on earth is this my special gift God gave me? What is it good for? How am I supposed to take this gift and bless others with it? Bless my family? Bless those around me?

I believe that God put me in the place I am today, to be a center for the group of gals I am leading.

Let me explain!!!

See, Im a Stay At Home Mother, with a 3.5 year old. My husband is active duty and we are in the down hill slope of this particular tour. Man it just can’t get here quick enough, however while he has been gone I have decided to dip into my old patterns of my younger self.

Whats that your asking, well I’m not getting crazy if thats what your thinking. Instead I took on playing softball. Adult women, playing slow pitch softball.

You probably have this picture in your head of the girls that go out during the week, wearing the tall sock, short shorts, bows in the hair, we got em, but thats not what I’m  talking about.

I’m talking about ladies, women, mothers, veterans, active duty personnel, post collage athletes, teachers, coaches, sahm, business women, and every other title you can think of. We get together 2 times a month to play ball. I mean Play Ball!

I got one team member, where she is in court a lot of the time working with families and their children. She is quiet, and extremely sweet. Once she steps up to bat she places the ball and is on 1st before you can blink. Following her I have the hip young fast pitch coach. She steps up hits the ball and next thing you know your telling the batter before her, “way to girl”, because she is already in the dugout!

The batting continues like that with everyone, there may be some slower than others, but we all play a huge part of the game.  Another one of my gals, steps up, you better have your face protected or sitting on the fence! Because its going to come at you hard!!!! One gal has arms for days, another looks like a unicorn in the outfield, another picks everything hit her, another one has thighs like you never seen.  I mean the list goes on. We are a true puzzle with all the little pieces that work.

When theses gals hit the field there is nothing they can’t do, and nothing they can not overcome. They could be in new positions, or having a hard day fielding a ball, but the person next to them, behind them, or in front of them, each player will look at one another pick each other up. It could be a words of encouragement or just the look we need to see. Then the next play starts and its like nothing happened. Everything went smoothly and we are walking back into the dug out laughing, cheering, and ready to Drawsome.

I guess what I am saying is, I have another family. This is a different kind of family  though.   A family of sister, where we each can come together, release all the ugly we each faced that week or month. We talk, we laugh, we cry all together. We support each other during everything. Our family challenges, our children, our love lives, our car troubles, or money trials. We each take a step back from us, to make sure each of us are good, and on our game.

We’ve done well thus far in our adventures of softball together. We have had our Ups and WE HAVE HAD OUR DOWNS, but in the end we are not just a team, we are sisters, a softball family.

Wish us luck as we make our way to Florida, come September as we approach one of our biggest challenges yet, Womens Worlds, chasing some world series rings. Who would have thunk? Its not cheap, so say some prayers as we do our fundraising, for travel, uniforms, and any other unexpected expenses.

My God Story

My last post was some time ago! A lot has happened since then! Let me tell you about my GOD STORY!

Have you ever heard of a God Story? I never heard of a God Story until I started attended my church, NewBreak Ocean Beach. One Sunday morning, one of our Pastors, Mike Quinn had spoken at our campus. I believe they were in the middle of what they call, the Traveling Pastors . This is when each of the Pastors from each campus comes to visits the other campus and tell the sermon that Sunday. Its a fantastic way to get to know the other pastors of the church. Anyhow, during this time frame Mike had said as he was closing up the sermon, “Have you ever had a God story like this one? If you have not, then your due.”

These words struck a cord with me. Now mind you this was almost a year ago when he spoke this sermon, BUT it stayed with me. Now lets fast forward to February 2018.

The Shortest Longest Month Ever!!!!

February 2018, I walked into my apartments main office, showed them the copy of my husbands order, (he had already left for current duty station in August 2017 and we stay stateside) And told them I wanted to break my lease March 1, 2018. I chose the shortest month of the year, to break my lease, lease a P.o. Box, lease a storage unit, rent a trailer for 2 days, pack, donate, trash, deep clean, sleep on floors, futons, air mattresses the whole nine yards to stop wasting my money on rent.

I had no Plan of where I was going to stay, but I hd 28 days to figure it out. I contemplating rehoming my dogs, taking a road trip to TX living with my parents, doing a week to week place to stay … and then my best friend without hesitation offered her hide abed in her 30ft RV, to myself, my toddler, my akita, and my poochon and all my craziness.

God was working. He had plans for us and I didn’t know where he was taking my family. The next think you know, March 1st was here. we were living in the RV. a week later a very good girl friend of mine and I were talking at the field (yes the softball fields. Yes we play  and we are damn good at it too.) As we were drinking our Sculpins, she started talking about her job. i’ve known this girl for months now and never once did we ever talk about what she did for living. Come to find out she is a Home Loan Officer, and her family works in the home mortgage business. Needless to say, I gulped my beer down, laughed and said, yea if we could ever buy in San Diego, we would… and proceeded to roll my eyes. She looked at me and basically said, give me a chance, I guarantee  I can get you approved for what you want, where you want, and moved in   by the end of April?….

Dont Blink, its Happens Fast!

I didn’t say much that night after that conversation. Instead I though really hard about it. Email my husband about it, and then finally prayed about it. And prayed. And prayed. An d prayed. Praying felt good! So, just like breaking the lease, and not having any place to live, I took a leap of faith and God carried my family on his wings. 15 houses later and 2 offers in, We FOUND a Home AND are HOME OWNERS, BEFORE the end of April.

As I am writing this down, it seems weird but it doesn’t feel so crazy, but eternally I am reliving each day in my head and heart and know that God carried us through this all. I was loosing my mind because I didn’t know what to do or where to go. But we are home owners. My child has her own room, my dogs have yard to run with her and play. I know its going to be a lot of work and there are some things this home will need, just as every home does, some good old fashion Tender Loving Care! Face lifts here and there, new paint, some new pictures, …. but you know what! its all totally worth it. We have home, A yard! A garage! and 15 mins from the BEACH! Its our Paradise, and we could not have done it without God working and putting people in our lives to helps us, pray for us, encourage us, bless us and show us mercy as we show them mercy and grace too! For everything they did for us!

So your probably wondering exactly how the home buying process happens. Well we used the VA Home Loan, went through Team Home Loans,  We got all our finances together for them, signed a butt load of papers, and Boom Done. They were so fabulous!

I  do suggest some sort of money down, but if the lenders are wanting to really help  you out NO you don’t need 10 grand like most people say,  you can make it happen under that.

My realtor was a personal friend, again someone I play ball with during the week. (crazy how if you do some sort of Adult Recreation you network and make friends on a different scale) but he was so forward about things. Never held anything  back and made sure to keep things simple. He knew what I was looking for, and we kept searching. I will say this, realtors have lives and families too. Don’t forget that. So on weekends that their kids have  baseball or soccer and they don’t answer the phone don’t get pissy, just get off your butt, get in the car and do some open houses on your own. Get a feel for everything, and watch out for those flips! Whoa nelly!

Alright! Thats it for this one! Later!

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The RV Life is for Me?

A lot has been happening.

The husbands gone for some time with his job, so its just me and my little one. My best friend has bee so awesome and she has totally helped me out in so many ways.

Well last year, 2017, my family and I have been living paycheck to paycheck, just like every other family in this crazy world, however God has given us a chance to figure this out.

I finally got the courage to just break the lease and leave. My little one and I are going to room with my BFF, and my 2 Dogs are going to accompany us.

Its going to be an adventure, we will be staying in her RV. Yes that is right RV. I think the most scary part about this adventure is the trust and faith that I can keep my shiz together.  HaHa!

The hopes are to save and be able to find a home for sale in Sunny San Diego. I’ve taken the step to make it happen by breaking a lease and packing my stuff up, but the true test will be in a couple of months.

Whats the most bold thing you have ever done?

The SMILE is EVERYTHING

Merry Christmas!

Happy New Year!

Whats your resolution? >>>>>> Oh you know, loose weight, go to the gym, cook more often, save some money, spend less time on social media >>>>>>>>>>>

>>>> 2 weeks later, haven’t made it to the gym, still eating out, gained weight, making even more plans on social media with friends, oh and still broke!

 TOTALLY WORTH IT!

My little one just turned 3!!! What a fun day. The stress of it being what she asked for was crazy but totally worth the smiles and laughs and the memories.

See, I only remember one birthday, and it wasn’t my 16th, 18th, 21st, or 30th, it was my 4th or 5th…. and I only remember that because my mother wrapped a gift in newspaper funnies. I thought it is was so cool to have newspaper wrapping. My cake was white, with the little round rainbow dots all over it, I had a piñata, we were on our back porch patio the looked out in grassy area of the big park in base housing. This is my fondest memory as a child’s birthday. Simple and fun…

Its funny how now children birthday are both simple and elaborate. We as parents choose which way we want to go. For my littles ones 1st and 2nd B-day was super simple. Literally family only on the 1st, and on the 2nd birthday she had a small park birthday with cupcakes.

For some reason though for her 3rd birthday I felt the need and urge to do a tad bit more. I started wondering why, then all my psychology courses I had taken to be somewhere awesome in life in a few years because I was going to be some big time psychologist or something… anyway, they took a course of action and realized my urge to do more was because at the age of 3, toddlers tend to really start remember and recognizing and holding on to things more… therefore I wanted to do my best to give her the best 3rd birthday. That way for her 4th, or 5th, or 6th… if we are not somewhere stable because the military is unknown and you never really know whats goin

  The Birthday!!!!

“Hey sweetie, what kind of birthday party would you like?” as I asked my soon to be 3 year old.

“Um, nanananananananananananana BATGIRL!” as she danced around Chick-fil-a in her rainboots, puffy coat, and batgirl beanie. Mind you we are not in Cali at this time, but instead, a freezing cold Central Texas.

For the next 2 weeks, Im the slave of Etsy, Pinterest, and Amazon. Looking for the best ideas and the coolest gems and the most cost efficient gadgets. Getting cake ideas, cookie ideas, game ideas.

After all the money spend and time and energy spent on the internet, the birthday was a success. Easy, not to expensive, and kept kiddos entertained as well as parents happy and relaxed.

From batgirl themed, to princess bounce house, slap bracelets, piñata, coloring table, and bubbles it was a total success.

Here are some of the fun to see!

Cake by Blondies Sweet Shop

Birthday Get Up by Bows & Ballers by Gwen

 

 

 

A Phone Call or Text?

Living a lifestyle where you say goodbye sucks. You never really know when you get to speak to your loved one(s) when they are away. All you can really do, is just stay busy, allow yourself to miss them from time to time, then stay busy again. I know that is what I do.

I fill my calendar with all sorts of things, sports, gym, coffee dates, hair appointments, dog appointments, laundry, dishes, cleaning the carpets, taking my kiddo to school, wondering aimlessly through down town window shopping, taking the kiddo to the zoo, or park, or museum.. the list will go on if I felt like writing that much.

Just when you really are about to hit the wall and break down, and the world feels like its caving in, the little text out of no where that says “Hey”.. just “hey” melted my heart! Brings tears to my eyes, and Joy to every fiber in my body! My light has turned back on! Then comes the best part… A PHONE CALL!

Listening to his words, and hearing his voice.. “What are ya’ll doin?” this words put a smile on my face because he doesn’t miss a beat. Its like he hasn’t even left, he is right down the road at work or something. He is, he is at work.. just a much much much farther walk/drive/flight… but he asked the important questions.. what are YA’LL doin.

My world was starting to move a little a slow, but I’m back now. I feel rejuvenated.

A phone call or text, thats all it takes, sometimes.

Daily Prompt: Clutch

As I load my daughter in the car seat I clutch her hand tight and tell her we are going to the airport. she looked up at me with sleepy eyes, then searches her surroundings and lands her eyes on his face. She smiles and says, Daddy!

My eyes fill with tears but I hold them back. I’ve got to be strong. She can not see me break, not yet.

He clutches his bags in hands and throws them in the back, lowering his eyes to shoes. Meeting each others eyes, is a hard task this morning. We don’t say much but talk about the night before.

We reassure each other that this will be fast trip. That it could be worst. That we should be thankful for the time we had, even when it was an unexpected surprise.

I pull up to the drop-off zone of the airport. Its a mad house, a day before Thanksgiving.

I park the car, get out to walk our sleepy daughter, so she can say goodbye, give big big kisses and hug her daddy’s neck. She ask him where he’s going? He keeps a strong stiff face, and smiles. “Daddy has got to go to work, baby. I’ll be back soon. I love you.”

He closes the door, and turns to me. Tears are rolling down my face. My heart is breaking. I am being selfish, I don’t want him to go. I want him to stay with us. Spend the holidays with us.

“See ya later hunny. I love you! Be safe! Call when you can!” I lean in for my final kiss before he heads out.

Until our next unexpected surprise… military life living it everyday as a military family!

via Daily Prompt: Clutch

Flipping the Switch

Its interesting how a child can flip a switch so fast. They can be tired and cranky one moment and then up and ready to go the next. For example, my little one was just laying down watching Disney’s The Princess and the Frog, about to fall asleep. She lost it because she didn’t want to sleep. So she jumped up grabbed her stool, went to the kitchen and attempting to find the cookies.. What a winner!

We were at the park today as well, she meet a new little girl to play with. She started running away from her because the little girl wanted to play with her sticks and rock, then she was holding her hand calling her little friend to come one, lets do this, lets go swing.

I wish it was that easy to switch it on or off like that and get away with it. Sad to say i can not do that now because i have parent. Oh man!

via Daily Prompt: Interest

Birthday Blues

It was my 33rd Birthday yesterday. I did nothing. Well tried anyway.

I vowed not to clean the house, touch the laundry, watch no tv, do no dishes, LET MY CHILD GO WILD.

My Facebook blew up with “HAPPY BIRTHDAYS”

I got emails saying “Happy Birthday heres a GIFT FOR YOU”

While looking on the outside I seem good, the highlight of my birthday, was talking with my friends face to face, they said Happy Birthday to me, Face to Face. We held a conversation about everything, they handed me a birthday beverage ( it was good, but not as tasty as a craft)

Birthday Blues you say, it was just another day. I didn’t even have a cake or cupcake…

HELPING HANDS

2 WEEKS

Its been almost 2 weeks since my husband flew to his new duty stations. He is doing well, you can tell that being away from his one true love “his daughter” is the hardest thing he has ever done. He is so strong but doesn’t give himself enough credit!

Men, it is okay to cry! Tears show a different kind of strength. He is a passionate man, and as much as it breaks my heart to see him hurt, it warms my hard to know he isn’t afraid to show his true self to me, his daughters, and even some of his co-workers. Sure they may poke fun, but you know what, FUCK EM! If those co-workers can’t respect who he is and what he sacrifices, then those are not the ones to surround himself with. Okay rant over……

HELPING HANDS

I served for the US Navy, 8 years. I choose to separate in 2013. As an active duty person, the community is strong and bold, but sitting on the other side as a spouse, the community and bond is 10x’s stronger. A military family is family, plain and simple.

The past 2 weeks, the military community has been there for me and my daughter more than i can express. Calling to check up on us, inviting us out to their place for dinner, coming over to my home for coffee, beach play dates, and dropping their day to spend with me at the ball park.

Now its not just the military community that i cherish, but my Church family as well. I cling to my church family. They have been in my life before my daughter made her debut. They gave me my first try at taking care of children in the Kids Ministry. It is there  I learned something about myself, I have no patience. And still don’t. I pray for patience EVERY DARN DAY!

FRIENDSHIPS

Friendships are what you make of them. They can be strong, subtle, or even the whats up how ya doing  type. However with each friendship you build it to what fits your circle. My friendships are categorized by Church, Military, Softball, and everything else. They are 3 completely different categorize and they each hit a spot in my heart. Some too over lap! THOSE ARE THE BEST FRIENDSHIPS!

I am going to be a little selfish, I love my different families, because each help me out so that i can have my healthy release of playing  ball. Everyone has their outlet, mine just happens to be on a dirt field, with a dusty glove, a 11inch or 12inch yellow stitch ball, playing a team sport where you can be play your position but play as a team. I get 50-55 mins each game of pure no worries and just play. I said I was going to be selfish, its because I am blessed with friends who are willing to lend a helping hand and help me with my daughter.

BEACH er BAY

Its late at night, and Im sitting on the couch with my little one. We are watching Curious George AGAIN!

I have to share, this past week was a very rough one, week one with no hubby. And my little one really tested and bushed those buttons, but my favorite day of the week was when I meet up with 2 of my girlfriends for beach day.

One brought her niece and nephew, the other brought her 8 month old.

We sat on the beach, talked our heads off, laughed, helped our friendships grow stronger, allowed our children to play and create new friendships as well.

My daughter has a huge fear of ocean. She has not wanted anything to do with it. Now mind you we weren’t technically at the beach more like the bay, but she finally started playing in the water!!!!

We started building (trying) a sandcastle, then the kite got busted out. We flew our kite for almost 30 mins running up and down the bay! It was so wonderful. Finally it got super hot, we wanted to cool off, I walked in the water, and she came running behind me. Jumping, splashing, wanting to search for shells! Such a fabulous day!

So I play, we all know that now. At one point in my adult younger life, I was rated pretty high. Life happens i stopped playing and I sort of feel off the grid. Now I am playing again. Ive been playing USSS. Its been a lot of fun.

Saturday, another one of my girlfriends watched my daughter while i went to a women tournament. Hot as balls 105, in Perris, CA at Big League Dreams (BLD) field. I played with some amazing women. I was able to since some real chemistry and we all had a blast! I can’t wait to get with these ladies again and just glove & smash!