We are a Family!

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What are some things that you do for fun?

Do you ever just take a seat, look back and wonder how on earth is this my special gift God gave me? What is it good for? How am I supposed to take this gift and bless others with it? Bless my family? Bless those around me?

I believe that God put me in the place I am today, to be a center for the group of gals I am leading.

Let me explain!!!

See, Im a Stay At Home Mother, with a 3.5 year old. My husband is active duty and we are in the down hill slope of this particular tour. Man it just can’t get here quick enough, however while he has been gone I have decided to dip into my old patterns of my younger self.

Whats that your asking, well I’m not getting crazy if thats what your thinking. Instead I took on playing softball. Adult women, playing slow pitch softball.

You probably have this picture in your head of the girls that go out during the week, wearing the tall sock, short shorts, bows in the hair, we got em, but thats not what I’m  talking about.

I’m talking about ladies, women, mothers, veterans, active duty personnel, post collage athletes, teachers, coaches, sahm, business women, and every other title you can think of. We get together 2 times a month to play ball. I mean Play Ball!

I got one team member, where she is in court a lot of the time working with families and their children. She is quiet, and extremely sweet. Once she steps up to bat she places the ball and is on 1st before you can blink. Following her I have the hip young fast pitch coach. She steps up hits the ball and next thing you know your telling the batter before her, “way to girl”, because she is already in the dugout!

The batting continues like that with everyone, there may be some slower than others, but we all play a huge part of the game.  Another one of my gals, steps up, you better have your face protected or sitting on the fence! Because its going to come at you hard!!!! One gal has arms for days, another looks like a unicorn in the outfield, another picks everything hit her, another one has thighs like you never seen.  I mean the list goes on. We are a true puzzle with all the little pieces that work.

When theses gals hit the field there is nothing they can’t do, and nothing they can not overcome. They could be in new positions, or having a hard day fielding a ball, but the person next to them, behind them, or in front of them, each player will look at one another pick each other up. It could be a words of encouragement or just the look we need to see. Then the next play starts and its like nothing happened. Everything went smoothly and we are walking back into the dug out laughing, cheering, and ready to Drawsome.

I guess what I am saying is, I have another family. This is a different kind of family  though.   A family of sister, where we each can come together, release all the ugly we each faced that week or month. We talk, we laugh, we cry all together. We support each other during everything. Our family challenges, our children, our love lives, our car troubles, or money trials. We each take a step back from us, to make sure each of us are good, and on our game.

We’ve done well thus far in our adventures of softball together. We have had our Ups and WE HAVE HAD OUR DOWNS, but in the end we are not just a team, we are sisters, a softball family.

Wish us luck as we make our way to Florida, come September as we approach one of our biggest challenges yet, Womens Worlds, chasing some world series rings. Who would have thunk? Its not cheap, so say some prayers as we do our fundraising, for travel, uniforms, and any other unexpected expenses.

HELPING HANDS

2 WEEKS

Its been almost 2 weeks since my husband flew to his new duty stations. He is doing well, you can tell that being away from his one true love “his daughter” is the hardest thing he has ever done. He is so strong but doesn’t give himself enough credit!

Men, it is okay to cry! Tears show a different kind of strength. He is a passionate man, and as much as it breaks my heart to see him hurt, it warms my hard to know he isn’t afraid to show his true self to me, his daughters, and even some of his co-workers. Sure they may poke fun, but you know what, FUCK EM! If those co-workers can’t respect who he is and what he sacrifices, then those are not the ones to surround himself with. Okay rant over……

HELPING HANDS

I served for the US Navy, 8 years. I choose to separate in 2013. As an active duty person, the community is strong and bold, but sitting on the other side as a spouse, the community and bond is 10x’s stronger. A military family is family, plain and simple.

The past 2 weeks, the military community has been there for me and my daughter more than i can express. Calling to check up on us, inviting us out to their place for dinner, coming over to my home for coffee, beach play dates, and dropping their day to spend with me at the ball park.

Now its not just the military community that i cherish, but my Church family as well. I cling to my church family. They have been in my life before my daughter made her debut. They gave me my first try at taking care of children in the Kids Ministry. It is there  I learned something about myself, I have no patience. And still don’t. I pray for patience EVERY DARN DAY!

FRIENDSHIPS

Friendships are what you make of them. They can be strong, subtle, or even the whats up how ya doing  type. However with each friendship you build it to what fits your circle. My friendships are categorized by Church, Military, Softball, and everything else. They are 3 completely different categorize and they each hit a spot in my heart. Some too over lap! THOSE ARE THE BEST FRIENDSHIPS!

I am going to be a little selfish, I love my different families, because each help me out so that i can have my healthy release of playing  ball. Everyone has their outlet, mine just happens to be on a dirt field, with a dusty glove, a 11inch or 12inch yellow stitch ball, playing a team sport where you can be play your position but play as a team. I get 50-55 mins each game of pure no worries and just play. I said I was going to be selfish, its because I am blessed with friends who are willing to lend a helping hand and help me with my daughter.

BEACH er BAY

Its late at night, and Im sitting on the couch with my little one. We are watching Curious George AGAIN!

I have to share, this past week was a very rough one, week one with no hubby. And my little one really tested and bushed those buttons, but my favorite day of the week was when I meet up with 2 of my girlfriends for beach day.

One brought her niece and nephew, the other brought her 8 month old.

We sat on the beach, talked our heads off, laughed, helped our friendships grow stronger, allowed our children to play and create new friendships as well.

My daughter has a huge fear of ocean. She has not wanted anything to do with it. Now mind you we weren’t technically at the beach more like the bay, but she finally started playing in the water!!!!

We started building (trying) a sandcastle, then the kite got busted out. We flew our kite for almost 30 mins running up and down the bay! It was so wonderful. Finally it got super hot, we wanted to cool off, I walked in the water, and she came running behind me. Jumping, splashing, wanting to search for shells! Such a fabulous day!

So I play, we all know that now. At one point in my adult younger life, I was rated pretty high. Life happens i stopped playing and I sort of feel off the grid. Now I am playing again. Ive been playing USSS. Its been a lot of fun.

Saturday, another one of my girlfriends watched my daughter while i went to a women tournament. Hot as balls 105, in Perris, CA at Big League Dreams (BLD) field. I played with some amazing women. I was able to since some real chemistry and we all had a blast! I can’t wait to get with these ladies again and just glove & smash!